Sex seems pretty simple, right? When it’s good, it’s good. However, so few people understand the dynamics of attraction and sex, especially when it comes to erogenous zones.
Luckily, we’ve broken down the basics of erogenous zones to give you and your partner a better understanding of how these little pleasure spots can drastically change your sex life.
Let’s start off with defining erogenous zones and how they work.
What Are Erogenous Zones?
By definition, an erogenous zone is an area of the human body that is more sensitive than other parts. Stimulation of such sexual spots whether it be from touch, blowing air, or kissing may generate a sexual response from some people or may simply just have a relaxing effect.
There are erogenous zones that are common with everyone, but not everyone responds the same way to them when they are stimulated. Some people may go crazy from a gentle temple massage, while others won’t have any response at all.
Sometimes, erogenous zones can be uncomfortable for some people while others swear by them at each and every sexual encounter. Physical erogenous zones may be one person’s favorite way to warm up for some sensual fun, while for others their favorite erogenous zone is their brain. For the latter, erotic literature may be more successful than a physical massage.
While erogenous zones differ slightly between men and women, we often share the same ones as well. We’ll go over the seven common ones we both share.
The Seven Erogenous Zones, Demystified
Are you ready to get educated about erogenous zones? These seven common spots are considered the most sensitive parts of the human body.
This is incredibly obvious, right?
Believe it or not, we may not be paying enough attention, or the right attention, to genitals during sex.
There is still a gravely dangerous notion that most women don’t need clitoral stimulation during sex. In fact, nearly 80% of women surveyed in the past decade have admitted that sexual intercourse without clitoral stimulation has left them unsatisfied and unable to reach orgasm.
It’s time we stop stigmatizing the use of toys in the bedroom. Guys, it doesn’t mean you’re not good at sex or that something is wrong with your lady. It means that biologically, girls have a tough time getting there without a bit of help.
In the same way, men aren’t getting the genital love they deserve either.
The penis is a little more complex than we give it credit for. The frenulum, the fleshy tissue that attaches the head of the penis to the body, is full of nerves that usually don’t get as much attention. In the same way, the scrotum and perineum also don’t get much attention.
Being patient and taking your time during foreplay, even if you’re in a heated rush of passion, can make all the difference.
Both sexes share this ultra-sensitive erogenous zone. It is often rated at the bottom of the list of erogenous zones, with most people claiming it feels great but it isn’t the best.
Here’s a tip: Don’t breathe into your partner’s ear. Not a lot of people enjoy a wind tunnel going right into their ear. When gently kissing and touching the ear, try breathing softly.
This zone is a favorite among many women, with large international surveys claiming that this spot is towards the top of the list.
The nape, back of the neck, shoulders, and throat are all spots that could be an erogenous zone in your partner. The only way to find out is to explore.
Oddly enough, women with spinal cord injuries have reported that neck stimulation is much more intense for them, too.
It’s obvious that this erogenous zone is shared by both sexes. Who doesn’t love smooching?
Kissing isn’t just a sexy part about intimacy, but it has also been shown that kissing is important in building trust between partners.
Don’t slobber all over your partner’s face, though. Not many people enjoy that. A wet smooch is sexy, but a little goes a long way.
Breasts and Nipples
Believe it or not, ladies and gentlemen, you both share this erogenous zone as well.
Nipple stimulation (this is science, people) activates the same part of the brain that deals with sensations from the clitoris and vulva.
Even though your nipples are essentially useless, fellas, they can still be a great stimulation spot. Men are often insecure about this area, but once you let go of the social stigma, it is totally worth it. Some men simply hate the sensation, though, so it is important to communicate your likes and dislikes.
The same goes for female breasts. Boobs are not stress balls, guys. No lady wants her breasts manhandled and squeezed hard. Pressure, vibration, and gentle touching can do wonders.
For women, this erogenous zone is pure heaven. Because the nerves in the inner thighs are so close to the genitals, this ultra-sensitive spot is very pleasant to have touched.
Some men and women find that this area tickles and itches in the worst way, so be sure to double-check if your partner is enjoying their thigh massage.
Butts are great. Grabbing, stroking, or spanking is often a pleasant sensation for both men and women.
Unfortunately, the booty is a sorely missed point of focus during foreplay and intimacy. Because of this, especially in men, touching that area can be uncomfortable if they’ve never received the right attention.
This area can be uncomfortable for many women and men, so again, communication is important.
Erogenous Zones and Your Sex Life
It is important to stress that not everyone will respond the same way to all of these erogenous zones. Testing the waters, communication, and responding to body languages and cues will help you figure out which spot gets your partner’s motor running.
Erogenous zones are just one aspect of really good and healthy sex. Investing in sex products from literature to toys can greatly improve your sex life as well.
How has learning about erogenous zones helped your sex life? We’d love to hear from you! Drop us a line in the comments below.