So, you had a great sex life before you got married.
It was always exciting and something you looked forward to each time you met.
But, maybe it’s not the same anymore now that you’re married. Maybe sex is less frequent. Maybe you’re juggling a ton of day-to-day responsibilities, and you just can’t find the time like you used to.
If by chance you have kids, then your sex life has an even better chance of dwindling down. Finding an intimate moment or two can be difficult with children at home.
In fact, even sex statistics state that an average domestic couple has sex 146 times a year, as opposed to 98 times for married couples.
That’s Why This Post is About Sex Tips for Married Couples!
Just because you’re married and have been with each other for a long time, doesn’t mean your sex life has to suffer!
You don’t have to be just another statistic!
Of course, priorities change, and you need to allocate more time to other more crucial things in your life.
However, don’t ignore sex altogether. Studies show that having regular sex has its own physical and mental benefits.
That being said, being with your spouse for a long time can actually improve your sex life. There’s a certain level of familiarity, and you’re able to share a unique connection with each other.
It also means that you can have candid conversations about sex with your spouse without any inhibitions whatsoever.
Why not use this to your advantage and spice up the encounters in your bedroom? (Well, it doesn’t always have to be the bedroom, if you know what we mean!)
We have some pretty great sex tips for married couples that you can use to heat things up in your married life.
Communication is Key
Communication is the key to a blissful time in your bedroom. If you have certain needs and desires and don’t talk about them, then there is a very good chance that your sex life will lessen in intensity, as well as strength.
If you’re able to talk openly about your likes and dislikes with your spouse, you’ll be able to develop a very good, healthy and long-lasting sex life.
It may not be as easy to talk about your fetish or your desires, but in doing so, you’ll be able to attain a good sex life many years into your marriage.
Let’s say role playing or imagining you and your spouse as the lead pairs of an erotic novel turns you on. Talk about it. Especially because, chances are, they also enjoy something similar!
Reach Out, and Hold On Tight
Many studies have shown that a simple and innocent act of just hugging each other for 30 to 60 seconds can increase the level of oxytocin. Oxytocin is a hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. It contributes to a sense of attachment and belonging.
Having as much contact as possible on a daily basis and being lovey-dovey whenever you can also lead to some great intimate moments in bed.
This may be obvious, but once you’re married, you tend to become complacent. You may not even realize that you’ve gone days without hugging or even holding hands.
Don’t Be Afraid to Surprise Your Spouse
Even those who don’t really appreciate surprises, love sexy surprises!
Whether it’s as clichéd as a bathtub filled with rose petals and champagne, or a nice quiet dinner at one of your favorite restaurants, or it’s wearing that sexy lingerie you just bought or using some sex toys, you can always keep your sex life alive with the element of surprise!
However, the key to these surprises is to not do them very often. Usually, surprises are meant for special occasions. Do them – but don’t overdo them.
Try One New Sex Position Every Month
There’s nothing better than to do something new each month. Why not make that “something new” a sex position to try?
Use the Kama Sutra as a guide. You don’t have to try every position (though there are 64). Pick the ones that you and your spouse are most comfortable with – you can even build up to the ones you aren’t sure of yet.
You know what makes sex more fun? Laughing! Just for laughs, you could try an unusual position and see if you are able to do it. Plus, who knows, maybe you’ll discover that you could be candidates for the Sexual Olympics.
Make Out More Often
When was the last time you “made out” like a couple of high school kids?
Making out is so underrated. Especially after marriage. Think of it this way: you’re probably with your spouse because it all started with a kiss. So, why let go of it now?
Of course, making out doesn’t always have to lead to sex. Try appreciating it on its own and see what it leads to. Part of making out is the experience and not knowing what is next.
Sexting, Porn, and More…
We are living in a world where we are continuously connected through smartphones, laptops, tablets and other such devices. Why not make use of all this technology for a modern version of foreplay?
Send some naughty texts or pictures and set the tone for what is to come when you’ll meet after an exhausting work day.
Today, women are as interested in watching porn as men; although what each one enjoys watching will differ. If you look around harder, you may find something that both of you’ll enjoy.
If you don’t really enjoy visual porn, then maybe written erotica may excite you. Why not pick up a copy or two of an erotica novel and see what it has to offer?
Whether you enjoyed teasing, getting into a pillow fight or flirting with your spouse before marriage, it’s never too late to relive your days before marriage – even if you’ve been married for a long time!
